People sure do have opinions, especially when it comes to parenting. It’s exhausting to navigate through post after post, book after book, comment after comment… sifting through it because I genuinely want to do right by my child and I want to be educated. I figured out fairly quickly that there is a time to tune out all those voices and opinions and just focus on parenting my own kid.
I really thought I would start blogging about motherhood right away. I’ve done a handful of feeling posts, mostly just gushing about how she fills my heart and soul so much. It’s not that I haven’t gained experience and knowledge that is valuable.. it’s just that I have learned more than anything else that there is no one right way of doing things. Things being: diaper choices, food options, sleeping arrangements, discipline/no discipline, potty training, when to turn the car-seat around, to work or not to work, vaccinations… I could go on and on.
I have learned through my 16 months parenting my spunky little girl that there are only a few voices that I care to turn to, and only a handful of opinions that have affected my husband and my choices with her. Ultimately, we knew and have known what to do for her because she is our girl. Our blood. Our responsibility. It is not rude to tune out the well meaning “others” whoever they may be in order to focus on your kid and do right by them. Likewise, it is not rude to disregard someone else’s advice or opinions in order to take care of yourself and do right by YOU.
I am coming to believe that the mom bloggers, friends, and even family offering their advice can actually muddle my mom brain more than anything else.
All of that said, I am more proud than ever of my mom friends. I am so thankful to have such a wide variety of women around me. Some, I interact with regularly – others I just see from social networking. I love the differences, and most of all I love the incredible little humans being brought up by them.
It’s an amazing sisterhood to be brought into. I wish we would champion each other more. I wish we would look at each other’s special little ones and value what we are doing for them, even when it looks different.
I hope the women around me feel like their choices for their kids are respected by me, not questioned. I hope that the women around me feel safe to share their struggles but also their triumphs as moms – because there are both, and both need support.
I am still learning daily. I still reach out to moms who have been doing it longer with questions or concerns… but ultimately, I have found so much solace in knowing that I am right for her, and no one here on earth could love her better than her dad and I.